“Other members (in the network) claimed that they had received the same photo and after I posted (about this trend) on my TikTok, many people started commenting that they received similar photos too.”
Besides dragon fruit, scammers also commonly send photos taken at airports or in cars.
“It seems like although the scammers may be different, they have one shared database of photos and videos,” Elin said.
Another tip, she said, is to pay attention to the pace of how a relationship develops. If the person appears to be rushing and excessively dwelling on their sadness, it is a “red flag”.
“If you start seeing these signs, don’t brush it off, just leave (the conversation) immediately. Don’t be afraid, the heartbreak can heal in two or three days,” she said.
“SISTERHOOD” IN THE AGE OF DATING APPS
The community has evolved into a support network, “a sisterhood for single women navigating love and relationships, especially in the age of dating apps”, said Elin.
Through conversations with members, Elin has learnt that it is often older individuals who are most vulnerable to dating app scams. They could be single, previously married or single mothers.
Many of them are longing for companionship or facing social pressure to settle down, and scammers are highly aware of their potential victims’ emotional state, she said.
The women are often financially stable, making them even more appealing as victims.
“(The women) are more likely to be swayed by sweet talk,” Elin said, adding that the scammers would often use fake or AI-generated photos to appear more convincing.
“Some even go as far as sending flowers, buying coffee or surprising them with breakfast in an effort to win their trust,” she said.
